Cats and dogs mark their territory. Animals all over the world fight for their existence and land. Are we people different? I don’t think so. At work, with friends or even at home, we want to show others what we can and have.
At work, we want to be the boss and have influence on our coworkers. Everyone has his own ideas and opinion and will prove them to the rest. Did you notice that a new boss always has new rules? In fact he or she is just marking their territory. It is nature of human being, just as it is nature to your cat or dog. If someone crosses the line and invades our land, we will tell him so. Maybe that is why we divided our work in different jobs or functions. It is just a way of dividing the land. We are afraid of someone else doing our job. Even if it is to help us. What if he does better? What if he has some other ideas that may affect the way I do my job? You should not be afraid. If they take your job, their job is free :).
The same thing happens when you put people together who have a strong and different opinion. They all want to explain their own idea without listening to the other person. Again, marking their territory. I hate it. I don’t say I don’t do it, but I try to minimize it. I’d rather put my energy in good collaboration to keep our lands together. In every warmovie I’ve seen, the ones that join forces and unite have won.
What to do about it?
- Do not join the game of someone who is marking his territory.
- Work together. Express your opinion and listen to other people.